The Sad Truth of Being in Love With Someone Who You Have No Future With

Ah, to be in love. It’s the most wonderful feeling in the world - the feeling that warms our bellies full of butterflies, and makes us smile for absolutely no reason at all.

The feeling that makes us move across the world, forget old plans, and dream bigger than we ever thought we would.

As the Beatles once said, all you need is love, but is that true? Don’t we also need compatibility? And similar visions? And timing?

And what about the two people who make absolutely no sense on paper: they’re from different parts of the world, they work completely different jobs, and it makes no sense that they even met - let alone fell in love.

So, does love conquer all?

Your Boyfriend Isn’t A Keeper Until: The 12 Stages Of A Relationship

The most important part of a relationship is being there for each other. Through the good times and bad, judgment-free. A little laughter and a lot of love doesn’t hurt, either. 

To know he’s a true keeper, you must go through all the stages of a relationship first: from meeting to falling in love, from meeting the parents, to having life throw a bunch of shit at you to try and tear you apart.

Stage 1: The meet cute

Wherever you met, it’s adorable . . . even if it was at a bar at 2am. You’ll never forget the first time you laid eyes on him, unless you were blackout wasted—but it’s still as adorable as meeting in an elevator or on an airplane at a reasonable time to be awake.

The Surprising Way To Truly Love And Be Loved (LADIES)

Our ultimate command is to love God and love people. Loving others well makes us God imitators which manifests in radiance. (Mark 12:30-31)

Something I’ve been surprised to learn this year is that there are a lot of ways to manipulate love. They are called counterfeits, something we think is love but it’s really a way of getting others to meet our needs. We don’t usually do it consciously, it comes from our own brokenness. Some of these ways are people pleasing, avoidance, control, withholding love and guilt tripping. We can’t purely love others if we carry on like our needs are more valuable than theirs.

We develop these habits, needs and voids through the way we saw love modeled to us. We also learn them in coping with our own brokenness. Ultimately, if we are insecure, then we probably use forms of manipulation to “love” others to get our needs met.